BIT was 16 first time we went to Cuba. She experienced her first conversation with the big white throne and the subsequent big painful head there too. She was not used to alcohol - I'm pretty much a beer and wine (dry reds) drinker and even though she would always try them, at that time she didn't like either - and she met up with some other girls (18ish) and they were drinking all these fruity (SWEET) drinks. Yep we all know how that ends

BIT just turned 19, but I'm not the ostrich type to bury my head in the sand and pretend my kid is an angel and doesn't do anything wrong. I've had many a weekend morning where I've stepped over bodies sleeping (passed out lol) on every available piece of furniture and floor space. I personally would rather have them drinking at home where I can at least monitor the alcohol intake, inebriated levels and yes the big one: NO ONE DRIVES HOME!
And no, they don't mind me being there, I usually have a drink or two with them if I'm home. Maybe because I've always had a pretty open and honest relationship with my daughter (and am called "Mom" to more kids than I ever could have birthed), she doesn't try to sneak around/out, lie about what she's doing/going etc.
Teens are going to experiment, most of them anyway, whether it's with alcohol, drugs, sex etc but talking to your kids with an open, not closed mind, is very important. I personally cannot be a hypocrite and blast my daughter for going out for drinks before she turned 19 when I did the same thing. I have friends whose kids think they are perfect and never did anything "bad" in their lives. I ask them why they honestly expect their kids to try and live up to what amounts to a big fat lie. Maybe they forget, but I sure remember being at parties and bars with these people
